Growing up, I was seen by others as the shy, QUIET kid. I was introspective. I was a deep thinker, but I was not quiet. Maybe with strangers who didn’t know me. But with my family, I was carefree, loud, even rambunctious at times!!
For too much of my life, I let others define me. It took years of healing and separating myself from the crowd in order for me to realize that it’s okay to speak up when I see things differently. It’s okay to speak my truth. It’s okay to be different.
Last week, I made a bold decision to speak the truth at an even louder level. And ever since then, I have felt MORE FREE to be even less quiet and speak more of my truth! I am who God says I am, not how others perceive me.
And I am BOLD! I am STRONG! I AM COURAGEOUS!!
I choose to be seen and heard! I am safe to be seen and heard. I honor the part of me that remained QUIET in order to remain SAFE, but staying quiet no longer keeps me safe. I CHOOSE FREEDOM AND PEACE by BOLDLY SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE!!
I will not go gently or silently into the night. Shame lives in the silence, in the dark. I choose to let light shine out of darkness. I choose to rage against the dying light.
Will you JOIN me?
“Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they Do not go gentle into that good night.
Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way, Do not go gentle into that good night.
Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”
To my reader, where has being quiet held you back? Where can you give yourself permission to speak up, to boldly speak the truth in love, to “rage against the dying of the light?”
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“Do not go gentle into that good night, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.” ~ Dylan Thomas
Here I am the day after a breakup…hair not washed, no makeup, and my eyes are puffy and swollen from crying yesterday. Honestly, exhausted and feeling worn down.
But….I am smiling!
I put on my workout clothes, take the dogs for a run, and listen to some worship music. As my feet hit the pavement, my body releases the emotional pain stored in my body. I let go and let God.
Breakups can be difficult because they can overwhelm us with a lot of pain in a short amount of time. However, breakups can be a good thing because they are an opportunity to heal the pain of the past as we comfort ourselves in the present.
In reaching out to talk to a friend yesterday, I gave myself the gift of an “empathetic witness” to not only the pain of the present, but also the pain of the past. And in doing so, I gave my inner child space and time to continue healing.
There is freedom in letting ourselves feel our feelings when they come so that we can release the pain and move forward.
There is freedom in setting boundaries with others when our deepest values don’t align.
There is freedom in choosing to protect our hearts, in choosing to be nothing other than our authentic selves.
Yesterday and today, I choose to rest and recover. I give myself permission to slow down, learn and grow.
I ask my inner child…
What do you need?
How can I be here for you?
How can I meet the needs you were trying to have met by the other person?
How can I meet the needs that weren’t met in your childhood?
What can I do for you right here, right now?
I tell my inner child…
I am sorry you were hurt in childhood.
I am here for you now.
I choose to protect your heart.
I choose you.
To my reader, I ask you this, where can you show yourself compassion and kindness? Where are you not choosing yourself? Where can you give yourself permission to change that?
In your hardest moments, I hope that you can give yourself permission to slow down and rest, to let yourself feel, to let yourself heal.
You are loved. You are enough. You are worth it!!
If you’d like to be coached on how to feel your feelings or connect with your inner child, please reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I look forward to hearing from you!
During deep sleep and active meditative rest, our bodies and minds slow down.
Our cells, tissues, and organs repair themselves so that we can keep functioning at our best possible health.
Energy is replenished and our immune systems are strengthened during restorative rest.
During the day, you can give your body a chance to recharge and refuel through active meditation and deep breathwork. Taking prolonged deeper breaths slows down the brain and allows the body to enter into the healing restorative parasympathetic state.
Guided and non-guided meditations are my favorite ways to actively rest during the day. Some of my favorite times to meditate are upon wakening, before going to sleep, and in the middle of the day when I need a mental reset or a physical energy boost.
I promise you that meditation is so much better than caffeine!! Would you be willing to take that challenge? Meditation in place of caffeine!?!
If you’re ready to make some changes in your life and are looking for someone to guide you along the way….then I would be honored to help you, to coach you, to be a witness to your healing and growth!
I can help you determine how much rest you need, and together we can create peaceful rhythms and discover unique ways to give your body the rest and balance it needs. We will explore and discover the best times and methods for you.
I’ve been practicing the art of listening to my body for many years now because it is what I had to do in order to be able to heal from trauma and burnout, in order to manage genetic and chronic conditions, in order to find restoration, healing, and peace.
If you or someone you know is interested in transforming your life for the better, I would be honored to walk alongside and be a bridge to greater healing and peace. It is possible! I am living proof.
Life was not meant to be lived in the fast lane 24/7. It’s okay to give yourself permission to rest. It really is okay! I am here to tell you that your worth is not determined by your productivity.
To all you struggling to slow down out of fear, out of being stuck in autopilot, or out of belief that there is too much to do and you cannot slow down, I see you! You are enough. You are loved. You are worth it, period.
If you’d like to chat and learn more about nurse coaching, please direct message or email me. I would love to help you discover greater balance and peace as you learn to better listen to and honor your body.
Just as the seasons change, your past is not your present.
As humans, it seems change doesn’t happen as naturally for us, as it does for the seasons. So what’s the difference?
We humans always have a choice, and often times we choose to live in our past, rather than fully living in the present, in the now ~body, mind, and spirit integrated in the same place at the same time.
Trust me, I know how hard it is to let go of broken dreams. I’ve struggled to surrender many of my heartaches to God.
The sudden tragic loss of my father when I was a teen. My divorce and the loss of my dream in life to grow old with my first love.
I struggled to let go, to move on, to accept that I couldn’t fix this broken dream just like I couldn’t fix the dream of having my father heal and stay alive. I so badly wanted my dad with me to celebrate my graduations, my wedding, the births of my children. It has been so hard to let go, to let myself surrender these broken dreams to God.
I feel deeply and it’s okay to grieve loss for as long as we need, but for me I realized my chronic grief was hurting me more than it was helping me heal. I became stuck. I stopped living. My body was present, but my mind lived in the past trying to analyze, overthink, and find a way to fix unfixable problems.
Two lessons I’ve learned the hard way…
1) Praying someone to stay alive doesn’t always work, no matter how great your faith. Our time is not always God’s time. Our will is not always God’s will.
2) I can’t “do the work” for another to heal their past trauma, as much as I desperately want. I can’t change anyone except myself.
I have tried to do things my own way, to do the work for others, to fix others because I could not fix my dad.
I have lived the past over and over expecting a different solution. And that, my friend, is the very definition of insanity, and why letting go of the past and surrendering our will to God is so important.
Through many years of hard life experiences, trauma counseling, and doing the healing work for myself, I have learned that change requires the same from all who want to step out of brokenness, from all who want to let go of the broken dreams of the past, from all who want to step into being your greatest empowered healthy self, the person you were always called to be.
The good news is that change is always possible. As a good therapist told me over and over, I always have choices and options!
When we find the motivation to change, it begins with a single shift in our mindset, followed by a choice, then lots of small steps, and for sure we need to celebrate all the little victories and even the failures. It is all just feedback and a learning process about ourselves, the goal being to peel the layers until we reach the core of who we truly are at the deepest level.
The most important thing I’ve learned about transformation is that we get there the fastest by slowing down, speaking our truths, and becoming our authentic selves as best we can.
Some words by recovery expert Melody Beattie have been balm to my weary, grieving soul over the last few years.
“Let go of all expectations. Cut the strings of resentment and negativity that connect you to another. Detach from bitterness and forgive. Make room for love and positivity. The universe will do what it will.
Sometimes your dream will come true, sometimes they won’t. Sometimes when you let go of a broken dream, another one gently takes its place“ ~Melody Beattie
It can be hard to let go of broken dreams, to let go of the past and love fully alive in the present moment, but it is possible!!!
With the help of my higher power I am doing so, and I believe you can too.
We decide if we let the past continue to be our present, like the perpetual Groundhog Day movie.
Or, we decide if we choose to allow each new day be a fresh start to do something different, for us to be someone healthier than we were the day before.
Change is always possible!!
And I believe you are worth it!
With hope and confidence,
Ruth Renee, RN
Student Nurse Coach
Are there any broken dreams you are struggling to let go?What have you learned because of the struggle?
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