We are wired for connection…

We have to get back to a place where we look each other in the eyes, in person as much as possible!

If you’re feeling isolated or lonely, I have this question for you…

How is your connection with humans in the real world? It it greater than, equal, or less than your connection to social media and the digital world?

If you need some help finding balance and connection, I can help.

My hope is for our world to come out of isolation, and find greater peace in connecting with each other as raw, vulnerable humans.

My challenge for you today: connect with 3 people today in person, and really look each other in the eyes. 👀

Where is your favorite place to connect with others in person?

We are wired for in-person connection. @nursehealingadvocate

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Resilience, not perfection…

In our society, I often hear the saying “progress, not perfection.” But these words do not resonate for me.

Being a recovering perfectionist, I often see progress as needing to be only forward moving.

To me, “progress” says mistakes are okay as along as they don’t set me back, as long as I remain in forward motion.

However, when I hear the word “resilience,” I think of being brave and getting back up every time I fall.

I think of how it’s okay to take 1 step forward and 3 steps back.

To me, resilience says it doesn’t matter how far or fast I go. The only thing that matters is that I never give up.

“Resilience, not perfection.”

Meditate upon these words. Be aware of how you receive them. Allow grace into your heart and soul.

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Growth is messy. Action over perfection is messy. Resilience not perfection is messy and imperfect, and that’s okay. It’s actually quite a beautiful thing.

To my reader, where has focusing on perfect progress held you back? Where can you give yourself permission to be imperfect and resilient?

If you’re a perfectionist interested in growing your resilience, please email me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com. I would LOVE to coach you!

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”
– Charles Darwin

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Do not go gently into the night…

Growing up, I was seen by others as the shy, QUIET kid. I was introspective. I was a deep thinker, but I was not quiet. Maybe with strangers who didn’t know me. But with my family, I was carefree, loud, even rambunctious at times!!

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For too much of my life, I let others define me. It took years of healing and separating myself from the crowd in order for me to realize that it’s okay to speak up when I see things differently. It’s okay to speak my truth. It’s okay to be different.

Last week, I made a bold decision to speak the truth at an even louder level. And ever since then, I have felt MORE FREE to be even less quiet and speak more of my truth! I am who God says I am, not how others perceive me.

And I am BOLD! I am STRONG! I AM COURAGEOUS!!

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I choose to be seen and heard! I am safe to be seen and heard. I honor the part of me that remained QUIET in order to remain SAFE, but staying quiet no longer keeps me safe. I CHOOSE FREEDOM AND PEACE by BOLDLY SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE!!

I will not go gently or silently into the night. Shame lives in the silence, in the dark. I choose to let light shine out of darkness. I choose to rage against the dying light.

Will you JOIN me?

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“Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way, Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

Do not go gentle into that good night ~ Dylan Thomas

To my reader, where has being quiet held you back? Where can you give yourself permission to speak up, to boldly speak the truth in love, to “rage against the dying of the light?”

If you’re interested in becoming a more assertive advocate for yourself, please email me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com. I would LOVE to coach you!

“Do not go gentle into that good night,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”
~ Dylan Thomas

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Why breakups can be a good thing…

Breakups are hard.

Here I am the day after a breakup…hair not washed, no makeup, and my eyes are puffy and swollen from crying yesterday. Honestly, exhausted and feeling worn down.

“To thine own self, be true.”@nursehealingadvocate

But….I am smiling!

I put on my workout clothes, take the dogs for a run, and listen to some worship music. As my feet hit the pavement, my body releases the emotional pain stored in my body. I let go and let God.

Breakups can be difficult because they can overwhelm us with a lot of pain in a short amount of time. However, breakups can be a good thing because they are an opportunity to heal the pain of the past as we comfort ourselves in the present.

In reaching out to talk to a friend yesterday, I gave myself the gift of an “empathetic witness” to not only the pain of the present, but also the pain of the past. And in doing so, I gave my inner child space and time to continue healing.

There is freedom in letting ourselves feel our feelings when they come so that we can release the pain and move forward.

There is freedom in setting boundaries with others when our deepest values don’t align.

There is freedom in choosing to protect our hearts, in choosing to be nothing other than our authentic selves.

Yesterday and today, I choose to rest and recover. I give myself permission to slow down, learn and grow.

I ask my inner child…

What do you need?

How can I be here for you?

How can I meet the needs you were trying to have met by the other person?

How can I meet the needs that weren’t met in your childhood?

What can I do for you right here, right now?

I tell my inner child…

I am sorry you were hurt in childhood.

I am here for you now.

I choose to protect your heart.

I choose you.

To my reader, I ask you this, where can you show yourself compassion and kindness? Where are you not choosing yourself? Where can you give yourself permission to change that?

In your hardest moments, I hope that you can give yourself permission to slow down and rest, to let yourself feel, to let yourself heal.

You are loved. You are enough. You are worth it!!

If you’d like to be coached on how to feel your feelings or connect with your inner child, please reach out to me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you!

The Importance of Getting Enough Rest…

How much do you rest?

Is it enough? Or, is it too much or not enough?

What is the right amount for you?

Each one of us is unique and we each need a different amount of sleep and rest so that our bodies can function at their best, in all aspects of health…

🌱Physically
🌱Emotionally
🌱Mentally
🌱Spiritually
🌱Relationally
🌱Financially
🌱Environmentally

During deep sleep and active meditative rest, our bodies and minds slow down.

Our cells, tissues, and organs repair themselves so that we can keep functioning at our best possible health.

Energy is replenished and our immune systems are strengthened during restorative rest.

During the day, you can give your body a chance to recharge and refuel through active meditation and deep breathwork. Taking prolonged deeper breaths slows down the brain and allows the body to enter into the healing restorative parasympathetic state.

Guided and non-guided meditations are my favorite ways to actively rest during the day. Some of my favorite times to meditate are upon wakening, before going to sleep, and in the middle of the day when I need a mental reset or a physical energy boost.

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I promise you that meditation is so much better than caffeine!! Would you be willing to take that challenge? Meditation in place of caffeine!?!

If you’re ready to make some changes in your life and are looking for someone to guide you along the way….then I would be honored to help you, to coach you, to be a witness to your healing and growth!

I can help you determine how much rest you need, and together we can create peaceful rhythms and discover unique ways to give your body the rest and balance it needs. We will explore and discover the best times and methods for you.

I’ve been practicing the art of listening to my body for many years now because it is what I had to do in order to be able to heal from trauma and burnout, in order to manage genetic and chronic conditions, in order to find restoration, healing, and peace.

If you or someone you know is interested in transforming your life for the better, I would be honored to walk alongside and be a bridge to greater healing and peace. It is possible! I am living proof.

Life was not meant to be lived in the fast lane 24/7. It’s okay to give yourself permission to rest. It really is okay! I am here to tell you that your worth is not determined by your productivity.

To all you struggling to slow down out of fear, out of being stuck in autopilot, or out of belief that there is too much to do and you cannot slow down, I see you! You are enough. You are loved. You are worth it, period.

If you’d like to chat and learn more about nurse coaching, please direct message or email me. I would love to help you discover greater balance and peace as you learn to better listen to and honor your body.

Cheers to more balanced health! ✨

Warmly,

Ruth Rehart George RN

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How to find freedom from negative thinking…

Dear friend,

You are more powerful than you realize!

Please speak kind and empowering words to yourself and others, every day until you believe them with all your heart.

Challenge negative and hurtful thoughts.

Uproot any unkind beliefs living lurking in the soil of your mind.

We cannot control the thoughts that come into our head, or the words others speak over us,

BUT we always have power in how we choose to respond to thoughts, and how we choose to breathe.

Pausing and taking purposeful, deep breaths can slow your thoughts, your heart rate, and unhealthy reactions.

Whenever you encounter negative thoughts today, internally or externally, I invite you to pause, take 3 deep breaths, and look for the positive.

Ask, “Is this true?”

If you choose to do this powerful experiment, I’d love to hear about the challenges you overcame, and the freedom you found.

What did you learn?

What was your greatest insight?

Remember—
You are loved.
You are worth it.
You are enough, period.

Warmly,
Ruth Renee George RN

I’d love to hear what you learned. Feel free to email me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com or leave a comment on this page.

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Seasons Change, So Can We…

Just as the seasons change, your past is not your present.

As humans, it seems change doesn’t happen as naturally for us, as it does for the seasons. So what’s the difference?

We humans always have a choice, and often times we choose to live in our past, rather than fully living in the present, in the now ~body, mind, and spirit integrated in the same place at the same time.

Trust me, I know how hard it is to let go of broken dreams. I’ve struggled to surrender many of my heartaches to God.

The sudden tragic loss of my father when I was a teen. My divorce and the loss of my dream in life to grow old with my first love.

I struggled to let go, to move on, to accept that I couldn’t fix this broken dream just like I couldn’t fix the dream of having my father heal and stay alive. I so badly wanted my dad with me to celebrate my graduations, my wedding, the births of my children. It has been so hard to let go, to let myself surrender these broken dreams to God.

I feel deeply and it’s okay to grieve loss for as long as we need, but for me I realized my chronic grief was hurting me more than it was helping me heal. I became stuck. I stopped living. My body was present, but my mind lived in the past trying to analyze, overthink, and find a way to fix unfixable problems.

Two lessons I’ve learned the hard way…

1) Praying someone to stay alive doesn’t always work, no matter how great your faith. Our time is not always God’s time. Our will is not always God’s will.

2) I can’t “do the work” for another to heal their past trauma, as much as I desperately want. I can’t change anyone except myself.

I have tried to do things my own way, to do the work for others, to fix others because I could not fix my dad.

I have lived the past over and over expecting a different solution. And that, my friend, is the very definition of insanity, and why letting go of the past and surrendering our will to God is so important.

Through many years of hard life experiences, trauma counseling, and doing the healing work for myself, I have learned that change requires the same from all who want to step out of brokenness, from all who want to let go of the broken dreams of the past, from all who want to step into being your greatest empowered healthy self, the person you were always called to be.

The good news is that change is always possible. As a good therapist told me over and over, I always have choices and options!

When we find the motivation to change, it begins with a single shift in our mindset, followed by a choice, then lots of small steps, and for sure we need to celebrate all the little victories and even the failures. It is all just feedback and a learning process about ourselves, the goal being to peel the layers until we reach the core of who we truly are at the deepest level.

The most important thing I’ve learned about transformation is that we get there the fastest by slowing down, speaking our truths, and becoming our authentic selves as best we can.

Some words by recovery expert Melody Beattie have been balm to my weary, grieving soul over the last few years.

“Let go of all expectations.
Cut the strings of resentment and negativity that connect you to another.
Detach from bitterness and forgive.
Make room for love and positivity.
The universe will do what it will.

Sometimes your dream will come true,
sometimes they won’t.
Sometimes when you let go of a broken dream, another one gently takes its place“
~Melody Beattie

It can be hard to let go of broken dreams, to let go of the past and love fully alive in the present moment, but it is possible!!!

With the help of my higher power I am doing so, and I believe you can too.

We decide if we let the past continue to be our present, like the perpetual Groundhog Day movie.

Or, we decide if we choose to allow each new day be a fresh start to do something different, for us to be someone healthier than we were the day before.

Change is always possible!!

And I believe you are worth it!

With hope and confidence,

Ruth Renee, RN

Student Nurse Coach

Are there any broken dreams you are struggling to let go? What have you learned because of the struggle?

If you’d like to connect, please email nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com or comment below.

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Fabulously Forty & Free…

I often struggle with feeling good enough because I haven’t reached my ideal of perfection by a self-imposed deadline. I frequently get down on myself because I’m still a work in progress.

As I approach 40, I realize that chasing perfection in this life is akin to a rabbit running on a wheel chasing a dangling carrot just out of reach.

As long as I am breathing, I will be imperfect and make mistakes. Yet my faults do not make me unlovable; they make me human.

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I am slowly learning to be okay with my mistakes, to own them, and accept who I am, a child of God. My identity is in Him alone. That is how I find peace.

My greatest failure would be to believe I will ever be a finished masterpiece in this life.

God loves me too much to ever stop helping me grow in the Holy Spirit, to ever stop helping me push beyond human limits.

My greatest strength comes not in rising on my own, but in turning to God, trusting Him, letting Him love me every time I fall.

It is only in God that I am lifted above the madness of this world, that I am given real freedom.

Ruth Renee

11-15-2019

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A year can change everything…

What a difference a year and prayer makes!

I am still learning to trust God each morning, each time I feel scared.

I never asked to live with complex PTSD.

I would never wish on another living soul the nightmares, flashbacks, confusion, triggers turned into moments of terror.

But my complex PTSD reminds me I am human and can never do this life without God. It leads me to prayer and the word of God.

He comforts me and calms my wounded heart.

Today, the pain I live with humbles me, and reminds me I am only strong when I allow the Lord to carry me….the hardest truth and love for me to accept.

The pain pushes me to write, so that I may make myself and others aware of the love Jesus offers me, the most precious love of all.

I don’t always understand God’s plan for me, but I am trying to live His way by faith.

I am believing prayer works, and we are never alone.

I choose authentic over perfect.

Perfection is too great a burden to bear.

I am human. I allow myself to make mistakes, and not go into a shame spiral for it.

Admitting I can’t do it all was a hard pill to swallow.

I’m ready to do things God’s way.

Rest & PTSD…

Telling the story of my past
Overcome with exhaustion
sadness, fear, and hurt

Thoughts haze and fog
Droopy eyelids blink
Head weighs heavy
Memories of trauma
Impossible to carry
Alone

Drive home safe
Collapse into bed
Open the window
Turn on the fan
Weighted blankets
Fetal position
Calves twitch
Intestines flutter
God whispers, “rest”

Weak eyelids closing
I whisper this prayer

God, I’m hurt and scared
This terror from my past
I can’t carry it alone
I need your armor
I need your love
I need you with me

Help me know
it’s safe to rest

Meet me, Jesus
in my worry
hurt and fear

Meet me, Jesus
in my room
on my bed

Make it safe
Make it safe
to sleep
to rest
to be alone

I trust you, Jesus
I surrender

Safe to rest
Safe to rest

Body, surrender
Body, rest

-Ruth Renee
05.16.2020

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