Welcome to my raw, authentic, messy and brave nurse coaching world! I’d love to introduce myself to everyone.
My name is Ruth Renee, and my favorite colors are turquoise and deep blue. To me, these colors signifies healing, inner wisdom, and boldly speaking the truth in love.
It took me many years to discover how powerful and needed my voice truly is!!
For too long, I believed lies that I was not enough, that I was not worthy, that I was not lovable, loving, or loved.
CW//brief mention of sexual abuse
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When I was 7 years old, I was sexually abused for a short time. It shattered me in a profound way. But because of my courage and faith in God, I continually persisted forward. I take the next right step in faith, and I can now trust that God will not fail me.
Today, I accept who I am and where I have been. I know that my past does not define me. It may have shaped and molded me for a season, but God transformed me in a way that I will forever be grateful. In God’s image and by His love, I am forever changed. A new creation! A beautiful butterfly who now knows that she has wings and was always meant to fly!!
My purpose as a nurse coach is to help other women heal and move beyond the ashes of destruction, lies, and limiting beliefs trapped in their hearts and minds. It is the pure desire of my heart to be an advocate for real and lasting change. As a nurse coach, I gently guide other women toward healing and grace, toward receiving the perfect love that only God can give. “We love because he first loved us.”
If you don’t feel lovable, loving, or loved, please know that I have been where you are now. I appreciate how hard it is and how alone you may feel. I plead with you to not suffer in silence, to not isolate, to not believe the lies playing over and over in your head. Please know that I am here hoping and praying that you never give up on yourself!
Many times, I wanted to give up. Unfortunately, trauma patterns had a strong hold on me for a season because I believed the lies told to me by unsafe people. But, God sent believers into my life to be the hands, feet, and heart of Jesus; to show me sincere loving kindness in a way that I had not been able to receive for many years. Right place, divine timing! I give the glory to God for saving me. But I did play a part. I prayed for angels and God sent many beautiful souls to help me heal and learn to trust again. I believed in faith that God would help me. I took the first step in courageously bold prayer.
If you feel lost, I am here. If you are afraid, I am here. If you feel hopeless, I am here holding on to Hope against Hope until you can trust and believe for yourself that you are beautiful and loved, just as you are. You are perfectly imperfect, and God made you just as you are for a unique purpose. I am here to be your guide, to help you see the light and truth until your vision becomes more clear. I am here to help you get out of your own way so that you can be the bright light you were created to be. I am here without judgment, control, or manipulation. I am here carrying gentleness, grace, empathy, even courage and peace. I would love to share these gifts God has given me. You are worth it. Your greatest identity is as a child of God.
If you are struggling to feel hope, I would love to be a bridge to peace. I would love to be a light on your path to help you see the way forward to hope. You were fearfully and wonderfully made to receive God’s love and grace so that he can carry you home. I believe with all my heart, might, mind, and strength that God is for you. You are created by love, for love. To love and be loved. It is wired in your DNA to be connected to God and to other people. Please know that there are safe people to whom you can reach out! I would be honored to be that person who holds a safe nurturing space for you. A rich soil to help you blossom and grow.
As a nurse coach, I am passionate about helping other women feel wholly confident in their own skin. I am believing for you until you can fully believe in yourself that “all things are possible when we believe.” God is a promise keeper and a “man of His word!”
If you feel stuck, look up! The sky changes every day!! Peaceful Sunset @nursehealingadvocate
So many women come to me for help because they believe the lie that they are not enough. I am right here, right now telling you that this is simply not true!!!
God created YOU just as you are for a reason. You are fearfully and wonderfully made because you have a purpose and you are UNIQUE, SPECIAL. and LOVED! God wants to prosper you and give you a hope and a future, not harm you. GOD IS FOR YOU!! f you believe, then all things are possible. This is my faith and my hope. Empathy and desire for restoration is what motivates me to get out of bed each and every day.
If you would like to connect, please consider reaching out to have a conversation. You don’t have to live in fear. You don’t have to suffer alone. I am here. I see you. I believe you, and I believe in you. You are more than enough. You are worth it! You are not alone.
I’m so curious, where do you find even the tiniest spark of hope? Focus there and remember that HOPE is the belief to “Hold On, Pain Ends!”
Just as the seasons change, your past is not your present.
As humans, it seems change doesn’t happen as naturally for us, as it does for the seasons. So what’s the difference?
We humans always have a choice, and often times we choose to live in our past, rather than fully living in the present, in the now ~body, mind, and spirit integrated in the same place at the same time.
Trust me, I know how hard it is to let go of broken dreams. I’ve struggled to surrender many of my heartaches to God.
The sudden tragic loss of my father when I was a teen. My divorce and the loss of my dream in life to grow old with my first love.
I struggled to let go, to move on, to accept that I couldn’t fix this broken dream just like I couldn’t fix the dream of having my father heal and stay alive. I so badly wanted my dad with me to celebrate my graduations, my wedding, the births of my children. It has been so hard to let go, to let myself surrender these broken dreams to God.
I feel deeply and it’s okay to grieve loss for as long as we need, but for me I realized my chronic grief was hurting me more than it was helping me heal. I became stuck. I stopped living. My body was present, but my mind lived in the past trying to analyze, overthink, and find a way to fix unfixable problems.
Two lessons I’ve learned the hard way…
1) Praying someone to stay alive doesn’t always work, no matter how great your faith. Our time is not always God’s time. Our will is not always God’s will.
2) I can’t “do the work” for another to heal their past trauma, as much as I desperately want. I can’t change anyone except myself.
I have tried to do things my own way, to do the work for others, to fix others because I could not fix my dad.
I have lived the past over and over expecting a different solution. And that, my friend, is the very definition of insanity, and why letting go of the past and surrendering our will to God is so important.
Through many years of hard life experiences, trauma counseling, and doing the healing work for myself, I have learned that change requires the same from all who want to step out of brokenness, from all who want to let go of the broken dreams of the past, from all who want to step into being your greatest empowered healthy self, the person you were always called to be.
The good news is that change is always possible. As a good therapist told me over and over, I always have choices and options!
When we find the motivation to change, it begins with a single shift in our mindset, followed by a choice, then lots of small steps, and for sure we need to celebrate all the little victories and even the failures. It is all just feedback and a learning process about ourselves, the goal being to peel the layers until we reach the core of who we truly are at the deepest level.
The most important thing I’ve learned about transformation is that we get there the fastest by slowing down, speaking our truths, and becoming our authentic selves as best we can.
Some words by recovery expert Melody Beattie have been balm to my weary, grieving soul over the last few years.
“Let go of all expectations. Cut the strings of resentment and negativity that connect you to another. Detach from bitterness and forgive. Make room for love and positivity. The universe will do what it will.
Sometimes your dream will come true, sometimes they won’t. Sometimes when you let go of a broken dream, another one gently takes its place“ ~Melody Beattie
It can be hard to let go of broken dreams, to let go of the past and love fully alive in the present moment, but it is possible!!!
With the help of my higher power I am doing so, and I believe you can too.
We decide if we let the past continue to be our present, like the perpetual Groundhog Day movie.
Or, we decide if we choose to allow each new day be a fresh start to do something different, for us to be someone healthier than we were the day before.
Change is always possible!!
And I believe you are worth it!
With hope and confidence,
Ruth Renee, RN
Student Nurse Coach
Are there any broken dreams you are struggling to let go?What have you learned because of the struggle?
If you’d like to connect, please email nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com or comment below.
