What I’ve Learned so far at 41…

After 6 months of going through the nurse coaching processing as a client, I know without a doubt that my voice matters!

I am no longer afraid to publicly say what I think even if it is different than the majority. I have the courage to be me and am choosing from this day forward to accept others where they are.

What do you need to say out loud that you have not yet said? I challenge you to speak the truth in love, holding nothing back.

It’s okay to believe differently than those we love. Unity is not uniformity.

Unity is defined as “a thing forming a complex whole.”

A little something I read on Instagram that spoke deeply to my heart early this morning when sleep alluded me…

“Bring me the one who disagrees to my face but supports me behind my back. Bring me the one who takes risks a little far but pushes people to be better than they were today. Bring me the one who challenges me to rethink my perspective, to research before forming an opinion, and who has relentless faith that we will work out our differences and if we don’t, we’ll disagree cordially….

Bring me the messy ones.” @principal_jess

“Bring me the messy ones!” – Jessica Alessio @nursehealingadvocate

I’m so thankful for a mother who taught me, and continues to teach me, about unconditional love in spite of differences in beliefs, appearances, and talents.

Most everything I learned about love, I learned it first from my mother because of her relentless courage to choose faith over fear, love over hate, unity over division.

She taught me it’s okay to be messy, that it’s okay to be myself, that it’s okay to be different. She accepts me as I am, and holds space for me no matter the choices I make.

It is my hope for every human that you find your path and find your peace, wherever that may be.

It is my belief that we are on this earth to hold healing space for each other, no matter what.

Much Love!!!
Ruth Renee

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Isaiah 49:15-16
Ephesians 4:3

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What is love?

A year ago, I had this counselor who gave me a writing challenge.

She asked me this simple question, “What is love to you?”

These are the words that came pouring out of my heart…

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What is love?

Love is…

Noticing the little things

Sideways glances, silly smirks

Playful winks across the room

Saying my name with tenderness and joy

Spending time connecting with me

Walking, talking, laughing, joking

Snuggling on the couch

to watch a movie or our favorite show

read books together

just talk and listen with our whole hearts

dancing together in the kitchen

encouraging each other often

to chase our passions and dreams

texting and calling just to say,

“I miss you” – “I love you” – “I believe in you!” –

“You’ve got this!” – How can I love you today?”,

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Love is knowing me

And not knowing just about me

But knowing who I authentically am

Knowing what makes me tick

My likes, my dislikes

My victory, my disgrace

And still…

Wanting and needing to be with me

Love is letting me know all of you

Your strengths, your weaknesses

Your hopes, your heartaches and despair

Love is letting me in, trusting me

In the most fragile, vulnerable sense

Love is coming together

As a united front

Seeking something beyond ourselves and our love

Love is…

Praying, hoping, and worrying with me

Forgiving me when I do you wrong

Apologizing when you do me wrong

Enduring life with me through it all

Love is a choice that must be made each new day. @nursehealingadvocate

Love is patient, kind, and believes the best

Love not only melds time and space

Love binds and fuses hearts in the deepest sense

Love is hearing me, seeing me, understanding me

feeling me before you touch me

And me also being that person for you

Seeing you, hearing, you, understanding you

Love is caressing my face softly

Just because you love to be near me

You love to touch me sweetly and gently

And our love is more than a feeling

Love is choosing to hold on to “hope against hope”

even when love feels stagnant, hard, or hopeless

Holding on to God until the difficult moments pass

Believing and trusting they will

if only we “be still and know”

Serving each other and others

Love is seeking God with me

as we grow in grace

Love is never giving up on growth

Love is never giving up on yourself, God, or each other

Love is not a return on your investment

But love seeks to invest without thought of return

Love seeks to be of service without recompense

Love seeks to lay down your life for your beloved

Love is unfailingly choosing to be on the same team

Fighting together for those you love

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Love is a choice

That must be made each new day.

Love is letting go of the past

Love is wiping the slate clean

Starting fresh each new day

True love is choosing to forgive

“Love keeps no record of wrongs”

from day to day

Love is never giving up in the belief of the goodness in your beloved

Because of the ultimate goodness of God

The light that never fades

The love that leads to hope

Our ever present refuge

Love is choosing to surrender our pride for the higher good

Taking the first steps to trust again

In this world without peace or rest

The God of grace alone is the way

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With hope and faith,

Ruth Renee

09.07.2020

I would love to know, “What is love to you?”

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A Christian prayer for nurses and teachers everywhere…

God, thank you for nurses and teachers everywhere. Thank you for their good hearts and kind souls, their desire to help others heal and learn.

Thank you for their friendship and for their wisdom. Thank you for their boldness and their desire to fight for what is right, no matter what comes their way.

Thank you God for your mercy and grace. Thank you for sacrificing everything in order to love us well.

God, your people are TIRED. Their hearts are GRIEVED, overwhelmed with DISCONTENT at work and in the world. It is exhausting and they are not receiving the support they need. They are worn down and BURNED OUT. They need your strength and your peace Lord. Please shower our AMAZING teachers, nurses, educators, and healthcare workers with your abundant STRENGTH, peace, passion, and joy. Fill them all with your perfect LOVE, with the PEACE that surpasses all understanding, with the HOPE that never fails or fades away.” ✨

Bless us in all your ways as we go throughout our days blessing the lives of others. May the meditations of our hearts and the words upon our lips be pleasing to you, God. May we DELIGHT in you Lord, and focus on you! May we commit our ways to the Lord and you will do it!! You will give us the desires of our hearts as we abide and trust in you.

May you supernaturally recharge their spirits, bodies, minds, and souls. May they stand strong in the face of adversity and not be shaken. Yes, let nothing shake them at work today, tomorrow, and the next. Let them carry your presence and your peace. May they carry peace and hope to to their patients and students. Clothe them with the whole armor of God. Give them your zeal and your might. May they trust in you with all their hearts, leaning not unto their own understanding.

Peace be still! Calm the waves of the sea at our places of work today. Give us boldness and courage in our voices while you also fill us with love and whisper wisdom. Yes bless us lord, even unto 1000 generations. Bless us and keep us, make your face shine upon us throughout all of our days. Place a hedge of protection around us and May the yokes upon ours backs be those of peace. Comfort our broken hearts and be near to us today as we care for ourself and others.

God. May you look after those nurses and teachers who are losing their jobs. Bless them with your abundance. Show them the next right steps. Be a light on their path to show them the way to new beginnings, perhaps in ways that will lead to greater healing for our world. Thank you for all that you do, for never leaving us.

Thank you lord for your goodness. Thank you lord for your boldness, your wisdom and will. Even, thank you for your gentleness. We love you, and seek to praise you and honor your name. Fill our hearts with more of you, and less of the world. Set a boundary line of protection around our hearts. Renew our energy and repair any energy leaks. May we rest in you and abide in your peace and your truth!! In your beautiful name we pray, amen! 🙏❤️✨

Warmly,

Ruth Renee RN

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I Am Blessed!! ✨✨✨

I am blessed. @nursehealingadvocate

Welcome to my raw, authentic, messy and brave nurse coaching world! I’d love to introduce myself to everyone.

My name is Ruth Renee, and my favorite colors are turquoise and deep blue. To me, these colors signifies healing, inner wisdom, and boldly speaking the truth in love.

It took me many years to discover how powerful and needed my voice truly is!!

For too long, I believed lies that I was not enough, that I was not worthy, that I was not lovable, loving, or loved.

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When I was 7 years old, I was sexually abused for a short time. It shattered me in a profound way. But because of my courage and faith in God, I continually persisted forward. I take the next right step in faith, and I can now trust that God will not fail me.

Today, I accept who I am and where I have been. I know that my past does not define me. It may have shaped and molded me for a season, but God transformed me in a way that I will forever be grateful. In God’s image and by His love, I am forever changed. A new creation! A beautiful butterfly who now knows that she has wings and was always meant to fly!!

My purpose as a nurse coach is to help other women heal and move beyond the ashes of destruction, lies, and limiting beliefs trapped in their hearts and minds. It is the pure desire of my heart to be an advocate for real and lasting change. As a nurse coach, I gently guide other women toward healing and grace, toward receiving the perfect love that only God can give. “We love because he first loved us.”

“Carry Me Home” Photographed by @nursehealingadvocate -Painted by Jacob Secrest

If you don’t feel lovable, loving, or loved, please know that I have been where you are now. I appreciate how hard it is and how alone you may feel. I plead with you to not suffer in silence, to not isolate, to not believe the lies playing over and over in your head. Please know that I am here hoping and praying that you never give up on yourself!

Many times, I wanted to give up. Unfortunately, trauma patterns had a strong hold on me for a season because I believed the lies told to me by unsafe people. But, God sent believers into my life to be the hands, feet, and heart of Jesus; to show me sincere loving kindness in a way that I had not been able to receive for many years. Right place, divine timing! I give the glory to God for saving me. But I did play a part. I prayed for angels and God sent many beautiful souls to help me heal and learn to trust again. I believed in faith that God would help me. I took the first step in courageously bold prayer.

If you feel lost, I am here. If you are afraid, I am here. If you feel hopeless, I am here holding on to Hope against Hope until you can trust and believe for yourself that you are beautiful and loved, just as you are. You are perfectly imperfect, and God made you just as you are for a unique purpose. I am here to be your guide, to help you see the light and truth until your vision becomes more clear. I am here to help you get out of your own way so that you can be the bright light you were created to be. I am here without judgment, control, or manipulation. I am here carrying gentleness, grace, empathy, even courage and peace. I would love to share these gifts God has given me. You are worth it. Your greatest identity is as a child of God.

If you are struggling to feel hope, I would love to be a bridge to peace. I would love to be a light on your path to help you see the way forward to hope. You were fearfully and wonderfully made to receive God’s love and grace so that he can carry you home. I believe with all my heart, might, mind, and strength that God is for you. You are created by love, for love. To love and be loved. It is wired in your DNA to be connected to God and to other people. Please know that there are safe people to whom you can reach out! I would be honored to be that person who holds a safe nurturing space for you. A rich soil to help you blossom and grow.

As a nurse coach, I am passionate about helping other women feel wholly confident in their own skin. I am believing for you until you can fully believe in yourself that “all things are possible when we believe.” God is a promise keeper and a “man of His word!”

🎶Man of Your Word – Song by Maverick City Music ✨✨

If you feel stuck, look up! The sky changes every day!! Peaceful Sunset @nursehealingadvocate

So many women come to me for help because they believe the lie that they are not enough. I am right here, right now telling you that this is simply not true!!!

God created YOU just as you are for a reason. You are fearfully and wonderfully made because you have a purpose and you are UNIQUE, SPECIAL. and LOVED! God wants to prosper you and give you a hope and a future, not harm you. GOD IS FOR YOU!! f you believe, then all things are possible. This is my faith and my hope. Empathy and desire for restoration is what motivates me to get out of bed each and every day.

If you would like to connect, please consider reaching out to have a conversation. You don’t have to live in fear. You don’t have to suffer alone. I am here. I see you. I believe you, and I believe in you. You are more than enough. You are worth it! You are not alone.

I’m so curious, where do you find even the tiniest spark of hope? Focus there and remember that HOPE is the belief to “Hold On, Pain Ends!”

You can reach out to me by email at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com to set up an initial call. Or, you can find me on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn @nursehealingadvocate.

I hope to talk to you sooner than later, and would absolutely love to help you become your own best healing advocate!!

In the meantime, you are more than welcome to join my online healing community on Facebook ~ The Healing Advocate RN Community – for Women Empowering Women 🪴

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With hope,

Nurse Coach Ruth Renee RN

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My Foundational Values ~ Forgiveness. Grace. Honesty. Hope against Hope. Authenticity. Vulnerability. Courage. Peace.

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How to Boldly Speak Up…

So what if they don’t care what you think?! Let your voice be heard anyway, and remain unattached to the outcome. Nothing may happen now, but you never know the ripple effect you may have. What is the cost of not saying anything?

There is power in letting your thoughts and feelings be heard…no matter how they are received!

Wherever you are, whatever you are struggling with….what if you stand up for yourself, and let your voice be heard, no matter the outcome?!

Be an advocate! Be a leader! Be a voice of reason!! Use your God-given powerful voice and speak your truth!!

If you feel as if you don’t have a voice or a choice, I want to remind you that you do!! I encourage you to use your voice and speak up. Your breath is not wasted, no matter the outcome.

FREEDOM is the promise you claim when you choose to speak the truth in love. I believe in you. I am here to hold space for you if you need someone to listen and encourage you.

I am here to help you find your authentic voice and the courage to speak your truth.

To all you who are struggling to speak up, I see you. I am here for you. I believe in you. I am living proof that change is possible.

Remember, you are loved! You are worth it! You are enough — period!!!

Real power comes when you choose to live in the truth of who you are, when you choose to be nothing other than your authentic self.

You are a beautiful soul! Please don’t ever give up on yourself!!

If you are afraid to speak up at work, at home, at school, or wherever you are suffering….I am here for you. You are not alone.

I can be reached by email at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com

What I would tell my younger self…

Looking back at my 6th grade self receiving an achievement award, I wish I could have understood my lovability was not based on what I achieved or didn’t achieve.

I am telling my younger self now, I am lovable because I am a creation of God.

I was and am just as He created me to be. Wherever I am, He meets me there. All God wants is my heart.

There is nothing I can do or not do to change this divine truth. It’s taken me a long time to see truth.

Only by allowing God’s love, mercy, and grace into my heart, could the deep pains I’ve carried since childhood begin to heal.

Only then could the lies be removed, and replaced with truth that I am love. Nothing can ever change this truth.

I praise God that He got through to me, that I remembered He is trustworthy, long enough to let down my guard, to let Him in to my heart to heal me.

God is the Master Healer and only true source of life and love. Any healing, growth, success, and light you see in me, I give all the credit to Him! He saved me. He healed me.

With hope and much love,

Ruth Renee RN

Student Nurse Wellness Coach

What miracles have happened in your life? Who has helped you heal? I’d love to hear more in the comments below, or you can email me ~ nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com

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Your authentic voice matters…

The most important thing I’ve learned about transformation is that we get there the quickest by slowing down, by speaking our truth in love, and by becoming who we truly are at the deepest level.

When you slow down, you can hear yourself think. You can sort the clutter of all the voices in your head until you can encounter your own.

You must let all the other voices go, and only then can you have a clear conversation with God. Only then can you discover who you really are!

For the first time, you meet your most authentic self without all the noise of the world telling you who you are and who you are to become.

You then have a choice…to share or not to share your most authentic self with the world. To be brave enough to truly be yourself, to JUST BE YOU, to speak your truth in love.

Your authentic voice matters! When you do not speak your truth, you abandon a part of yourself. It becomes harder to love all of yourself!!!

One of the most important things I’ve learned about being able to love myself is that authenticity matters! I matter!! My story matters. My authentic voice matters!!!

When you speak the truth in love, you step into being more fully alive, more fully you, more fully connected to God, grace, understanding and knowing. Knowing that this is the one life we have to live on this earth, HERE AND NOW.

When you hold back, when you shift your words to what others want to hear, a part of you dies inside, a part of your awareness fades away.

You step into living only half alive. And piece by piece, you continue to fade away, and the real you slowly dies.

If I could tell the world just one thing, it would be this…YOU MATTER, YOUR VOICE MATTERS, YOUR AUTHENTIC VOICE MATTERS, YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

I’ve been doing healing work and trusting the process of transformation for quite a few years now.

I have many regrets of who I was and how I behaved in the past, but I am not my past. The slate is wiped clean.

When we transform, we step into grace and beauty, into knowing and understanding that no one is worthy, no one is perfect.

We all make mistakes. We all lose hope.

It’s okay to let others know you struggle. It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to give yourself permission to be you. I want to hear what YOU think, what YOU believe, what YOU feel, not how the world tells you to be.

I am here cheering you on. If you feel you have to hide a part of you, if you feel you can’t love yourself, or can’t let the world see ALL OF YOU, I am here cheering you on to just be you, to SPEAK YOUR TRUTH IN LOVE.

I know you can step into being you, loving you, accepting you.

I struggle with anxiety, depression, and complex PTSD. Thoughts of hating myself return from time to time, but I no longer live in the world of self-hate and abandoning myself, abandoning my voice.

I know that what I have to say is important. I know that I matter, that my authentic voice matters.

And I choose to speak the truth in love. I choose to live more fully alive each and every new day.

Today, I live in the world of hope and never giving up, the world of climbing every mountain, the world of giving myself permission to rest when I am weary and tired.

Today , I choose to step out of darkness into the light.

Will you join me?

With hope and much love,

Ruth Renee RN

Student Nurse Wellness Coach

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The Hard Truth of Mother’s Day…

Mother’s Day….the truth is that it isn’t always so easy.

I have some resentment issues popping up around my son not wanting to go on Mother’s Day outings today, but I’m trying to look at other victories and come from a place of service and sacrifice, rather than expectation. That was me last year, and it didn’t go well. Today I choose to give my worries and painto God, so I can settle into appreciation and hope.

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For Mother’s Day this year, I planned ahead. I invited my kids to an outing I think we will all enjoy. Foot massages are scheduled with my daughter, and then we will get take out for a picnic at the lake, my favorite spot in the city. The place I go when I need to be in nature, when I need to clear my mind, the spot I took my kids to feed ducks when they were little. The place I took my mother to visit when she was in town for my birthday. So many wonderful memories!!!

A few days ago, I pulled out the cricut machine and the scrapbook supplies and created a homemade invite for Mother’s Day. I dropped it off for my kids at their dad’s, to let my son know the invitation is still open if he changes his mind. If not, I can respect his decision.

So while I’m sad my son is not coming, I dived into the resentment a bit deeper this morning. I released the hurt and pain. I uprooted the bitterness from my heart.

I then had space to connect with God to see the good things I have and what has changed and gotten better since last year. I looked at what is true. And I feel a little more peaceful, a little less sad. I released my worries to God, and I know that God’s timing is perfect. I know that reconciliation with my son is happening at its own pace.

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Complex PTSD blew my family apart like a nuclear bomb, but God is putting it back together in a new way, healing the broken relationships between me and my children, reconciling hearts. He has already done it with my daughter. He brought her home just last week. His timing is perfect. And I can surrender my timing and my will to Him.

I know Mother’s Day isn’t always easy and I want you all to know I’m praying today for healing over mother-child relationships, praying for comfort for those who’ve lost their mother, for mothers who have lost children, and for those who are struggling to connect in the way they want with their mother or child. I’m praying for those who struggle with infertility. Praying peace over today for all of you wonderful imperfect humans, mothers, and children!!

My mother taught me to hold onto “Hope against Hope.” She taught me what a mother’s love is. When the time is right, when my son is ready, I know he and I will reconcile. God has brought so much healing to my family, and HE IS NOT FINISHED YET!!!

God is my anchor and he gives me the ability to love as he loves, to bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, endure all things. And I’m so thankful for my mother who taught me these truths, passed on the gifts of strength, hope, love.

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:7

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Through all of my heartache and struggle, the most important lesson I’ve learned is this….God’s love for us is so much bigger than the love with which we love our own children.

Praying you feel God’s love and healing presence today!!

Much love,

     Ruth Renee RN

     Student Nurse Wellness Coach

Is there any small space of resentment or pain you can witness and release to clear space for hope, love, gratitude, and truth? ❤️

May God bless you and keep you, and be a refuge for you in times of heartache and trouble.

For it is you who light my lamp; the Lord my God lightens my darkness. For by you I can run against a troop, and by my God I can leap over a wall. This God—his way is perfect; the word of the Lord proves true; he is a shield for all those who take refuge in him.” – Psalm 18:28-20 ESV

Set free…

Trapped words set free
My time is now
To verbalize what happened
The story of my life
symbolism in everything
Understanding God, truth, poetry
my gift, my talent, my identity

Seeds not buried under a rock
But planted in good soil
Watered enough to grow
Sprout and blossom
Rise up as a sapling tree
Young, small at first
Growing mature, tall, strong
A mighty live oak
Reaching up to the blue, blue sky
A mighty live oak
Filled with leaves year round
Sometimes needing pruning
Always bearing green, green leaves

Thank you, God
For sending me believers
Who showed me who You are
I learned who I really am
I accept the gifts and talents
You gave me before I was born
I am finding my purpose, my calling
My words no longer hidden
My talents no longer buried under a rock

I let go of guilt and shame
I cast my cares on you
Because you care for me
More than I will ever know
It is time now
My time is now
Trapped words set free
Trapped words set free

©RuthRenee
05.17.2020

With hope,

Ruth Renee

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