What I’ve Learned so far at 41…

After 6 months of going through the nurse coaching processing as a client, I know without a doubt that my voice matters!

I am no longer afraid to publicly say what I think even if it is different than the majority. I have the courage to be me and am choosing from this day forward to accept others where they are.

What do you need to say out loud that you have not yet said? I challenge you to speak the truth in love, holding nothing back.

It’s okay to believe differently than those we love. Unity is not uniformity.

Unity is defined as “a thing forming a complex whole.”

A little something I read on Instagram that spoke deeply to my heart early this morning when sleep alluded me…

“Bring me the one who disagrees to my face but supports me behind my back. Bring me the one who takes risks a little far but pushes people to be better than they were today. Bring me the one who challenges me to rethink my perspective, to research before forming an opinion, and who has relentless faith that we will work out our differences and if we don’t, we’ll disagree cordially….

Bring me the messy ones.” @principal_jess

“Bring me the messy ones!” – Jessica Alessio @nursehealingadvocate

I’m so thankful for a mother who taught me, and continues to teach me, about unconditional love in spite of differences in beliefs, appearances, and talents.

Most everything I learned about love, I learned it first from my mother because of her relentless courage to choose faith over fear, love over hate, unity over division.

She taught me it’s okay to be messy, that it’s okay to be myself, that it’s okay to be different. She accepts me as I am, and holds space for me no matter the choices I make.

It is my hope for every human that you find your path and find your peace, wherever that may be.

It is my belief that we are on this earth to hold healing space for each other, no matter what.

Much Love!!!
Ruth Renee

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Isaiah 49:15-16
Ephesians 4:3

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What is love?

A year ago, I had this counselor who gave me a writing challenge.

She asked me this simple question, “What is love to you?”

These are the words that came pouring out of my heart…

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What is love?

Love is…

Noticing the little things

Sideways glances, silly smirks

Playful winks across the room

Saying my name with tenderness and joy

Spending time connecting with me

Walking, talking, laughing, joking

Snuggling on the couch

to watch a movie or our favorite show

read books together

just talk and listen with our whole hearts

dancing together in the kitchen

encouraging each other often

to chase our passions and dreams

texting and calling just to say,

“I miss you” – “I love you” – “I believe in you!” –

“You’ve got this!” – How can I love you today?”,

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Love is knowing me

And not knowing just about me

But knowing who I authentically am

Knowing what makes me tick

My likes, my dislikes

My victory, my disgrace

And still…

Wanting and needing to be with me

Love is letting me know all of you

Your strengths, your weaknesses

Your hopes, your heartaches and despair

Love is letting me in, trusting me

In the most fragile, vulnerable sense

Love is coming together

As a united front

Seeking something beyond ourselves and our love

Love is…

Praying, hoping, and worrying with me

Forgiving me when I do you wrong

Apologizing when you do me wrong

Enduring life with me through it all

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Love is patient, kind, and believes the best

Love not only melds time and space

Love binds and fuses hearts in the deepest sense

Love is hearing me, seeing me, understanding me

feeling me before you touch me

And me also being that person for you

Seeing you, hearing, you, understanding you

Love is caressing my face softly

Just because you love to be near me

You love to touch me sweetly and gently

And our love is more than a feeling

Love is choosing to hold on to “hope against hope”

even when love feels stagnant, hard, or hopeless

Holding on to God until the difficult moments pass

Believing and trusting they will

if only we “be still and know”

Serving each other and others

Love is seeking God with me

as we grow in grace

Love is never giving up on growth

Love is never giving up on yourself, God, or each other

Love is not a return on your investment

But love seeks to invest without thought of return

Love seeks to be of service without recompense

Love seeks to lay down your life for your beloved

Love is unfailingly choosing to be on the same team

Fighting together for those you love

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Love is a choice

That must be made each new day.

Love is letting go of the past

Love is wiping the slate clean

Starting fresh each new day

True love is choosing to forgive

“Love keeps no record of wrongs”

from day to day

Love is never giving up in the belief of the goodness in your beloved

Because of the ultimate goodness of God

The light that never fades

The love that leads to hope

Our ever present refuge

Love is choosing to surrender our pride for the higher good

Taking the first steps to trust again

In this world without peace or rest

The God of grace alone is the way

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With hope and faith,

Ruth Renee

09.07.2020

I would love to know, “What is love to you?”

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Resilience, not perfection…

In our society, I often hear the saying “progress, not perfection.” But these words do not resonate for me.

Being a recovering perfectionist, I often see progress as needing to be only forward moving.

To me, “progress” says mistakes are okay as along as they don’t set me back, as long as I remain in forward motion.

However, when I hear the word “resilience,” I think of being brave and getting back up every time I fall.

I think of how it’s okay to take 1 step forward and 3 steps back.

To me, resilience says it doesn’t matter how far or fast I go. The only thing that matters is that I never give up.

“Resilience, not perfection.”

Meditate upon these words. Be aware of how you receive them. Allow grace into your heart and soul.

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Growth is messy. Action over perfection is messy. Resilience not perfection is messy and imperfect, and that’s okay. It’s actually quite a beautiful thing.

To my reader, where has focusing on perfect progress held you back? Where can you give yourself permission to be imperfect and resilient?

If you’re a perfectionist interested in growing your resilience, please email me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com. I would LOVE to coach you!

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”
– Charles Darwin

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Do not go gently into the night…

Growing up, I was seen by others as the shy, QUIET kid. I was introspective. I was a deep thinker, but I was not quiet. Maybe with strangers who didn’t know me. But with my family, I was carefree, loud, even rambunctious at times!!

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For too much of my life, I let others define me. It took years of healing and separating myself from the crowd in order for me to realize that it’s okay to speak up when I see things differently. It’s okay to speak my truth. It’s okay to be different.

Last week, I made a bold decision to speak the truth at an even louder level. And ever since then, I have felt MORE FREE to be even less quiet and speak more of my truth! I am who God says I am, not how others perceive me.

And I am BOLD! I am STRONG! I AM COURAGEOUS!!

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I choose to be seen and heard! I am safe to be seen and heard. I honor the part of me that remained QUIET in order to remain SAFE, but staying quiet no longer keeps me safe. I CHOOSE FREEDOM AND PEACE by BOLDLY SPEAKING THE TRUTH IN LOVE!!

I will not go gently or silently into the night. Shame lives in the silence, in the dark. I choose to let light shine out of darkness. I choose to rage against the dying light.

Will you JOIN me?

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“Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way, Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

Do not go gentle into that good night ~ Dylan Thomas

To my reader, where has being quiet held you back? Where can you give yourself permission to speak up, to boldly speak the truth in love, to “rage against the dying of the light?”

If you’re interested in becoming a more assertive advocate for yourself, please email me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com. I would LOVE to coach you!

“Do not go gentle into that good night,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”
~ Dylan Thomas

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How to Boldly Speak Up…

So what if they don’t care what you think?! Let your voice be heard anyway, and remain unattached to the outcome. Nothing may happen now, but you never know the ripple effect you may have. What is the cost of not saying anything?

There is power in letting your thoughts and feelings be heard…no matter how they are received!

Wherever you are, whatever you are struggling with….what if you stand up for yourself, and let your voice be heard, no matter the outcome?!

Be an advocate! Be a leader! Be a voice of reason!! Use your God-given powerful voice and speak your truth!!

If you feel as if you don’t have a voice or a choice, I want to remind you that you do!! I encourage you to use your voice and speak up. Your breath is not wasted, no matter the outcome.

FREEDOM is the promise you claim when you choose to speak the truth in love. I believe in you. I am here to hold space for you if you need someone to listen and encourage you.

I am here to help you find your authentic voice and the courage to speak your truth.

To all you who are struggling to speak up, I see you. I am here for you. I believe in you. I am living proof that change is possible.

Remember, you are loved! You are worth it! You are enough — period!!!

Real power comes when you choose to live in the truth of who you are, when you choose to be nothing other than your authentic self.

You are a beautiful soul! Please don’t ever give up on yourself!!

If you are afraid to speak up at work, at home, at school, or wherever you are suffering….I am here for you. You are not alone.

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How to find freedom from negative thinking…

Dear friend,

You are more powerful than you realize!

Please speak kind and empowering words to yourself and others, every day until you believe them with all your heart.

Challenge negative and hurtful thoughts.

Uproot any unkind beliefs living lurking in the soil of your mind.

We cannot control the thoughts that come into our head, or the words others speak over us,

BUT we always have power in how we choose to respond to thoughts, and how we choose to breathe.

Pausing and taking purposeful, deep breaths can slow your thoughts, your heart rate, and unhealthy reactions.

Whenever you encounter negative thoughts today, internally or externally, I invite you to pause, take 3 deep breaths, and look for the positive.

Ask, “Is this true?”

If you choose to do this powerful experiment, I’d love to hear about the challenges you overcame, and the freedom you found.

What did you learn?

What was your greatest insight?

Remember—
You are loved.
You are worth it.
You are enough, period.

Warmly,
Ruth Renee Rehart RN

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Your authentic voice matters…

The most important thing I’ve learned about transformation is that we get there the quickest by slowing down, by speaking our truth in love, and by becoming who we truly are at the deepest level.

When you slow down, you can hear yourself think. You can sort the clutter of all the voices in your head until you can encounter your own.

You must let all the other voices go, and only then can you have a clear conversation with God. Only then can you discover who you really are!

For the first time, you meet your most authentic self without all the noise of the world telling you who you are and who you are to become.

You then have a choice…to share or not to share your most authentic self with the world. To be brave enough to truly be yourself, to JUST BE YOU, to speak your truth in love.

Your authentic voice matters! When you do not speak your truth, you abandon a part of yourself. It becomes harder to love all of yourself!!!

One of the most important things I’ve learned about being able to love myself is that authenticity matters! I matter!! My story matters. My authentic voice matters!!!

When you speak the truth in love, you step into being more fully alive, more fully you, more fully connected to God, grace, understanding and knowing. Knowing that this is the one life we have to live on this earth, HERE AND NOW.

When you hold back, when you shift your words to what others want to hear, a part of you dies inside, a part of your awareness fades away.

You step into living only half alive. And piece by piece, you continue to fade away, and the real you slowly dies.

If I could tell the world just one thing, it would be this…YOU MATTER, YOUR VOICE MATTERS, YOUR AUTHENTIC VOICE MATTERS, YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!

I’ve been doing healing work and trusting the process of transformation for quite a few years now.

I have many regrets of who I was and how I behaved in the past, but I am not my past. The slate is wiped clean.

When we transform, we step into grace and beauty, into knowing and understanding that no one is worthy, no one is perfect.

We all make mistakes. We all lose hope.

It’s okay to let others know you struggle. It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s okay to give yourself permission to be you. I want to hear what YOU think, what YOU believe, what YOU feel, not how the world tells you to be.

I am here cheering you on. If you feel you have to hide a part of you, if you feel you can’t love yourself, or can’t let the world see ALL OF YOU, I am here cheering you on to just be you, to SPEAK YOUR TRUTH IN LOVE.

I know you can step into being you, loving you, accepting you.

I struggle with anxiety, depression, and complex PTSD. Thoughts of hating myself return from time to time, but I no longer live in the world of self-hate and abandoning myself, abandoning my voice.

I know that what I have to say is important. I know that I matter, that my authentic voice matters.

And I choose to speak the truth in love. I choose to live more fully alive each and every new day.

Today, I live in the world of hope and never giving up, the world of climbing every mountain, the world of giving myself permission to rest when I am weary and tired.

Today , I choose to step out of darkness into the light.

Will you join me?

With hope and much love,

Ruth Renee RN

Student Nurse Wellness Coach

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