Why breakups can be a good thing…

Breakups are hard.

Here I am the day after a breakup…hair not washed, no makeup, and my eyes are puffy and swollen from crying yesterday. Honestly, exhausted and feeling worn down.

“To thine own self, be true.”@nursehealingadvocate

But….I am smiling!

I put on my workout clothes, take the dogs for a run, and listen to some worship music. As my feet hit the pavement, my body releases the emotional pain stored in my body. I let go and let God.

Breakups can be difficult because they can overwhelm us with a lot of pain in a short amount of time. However, breakups can be a good thing because they are an opportunity to heal the pain of the past as we comfort ourselves in the present.

In reaching out to talk to a friend yesterday, I gave myself the gift of an “empathetic witness” to not only the pain of the present, but also the pain of the past. And in doing so, I gave my inner child space and time to continue healing.

There is freedom in letting ourselves feel our feelings when they come so that we can release the pain and move forward.

There is freedom in setting boundaries with others when our deepest values don’t align.

There is freedom in choosing to protect our hearts, in choosing to be nothing other than our authentic selves.

Yesterday and today, I choose to rest and recover. I give myself permission to slow down, learn and grow.

I ask my inner child…

What do you need?

How can I be here for you?

How can I meet the needs you were trying to have met by the other person?

How can I meet the needs that weren’t met in your childhood?

What can I do for you right here, right now?

I tell my inner child…

I am sorry you were hurt in childhood.

I am here for you now.

I choose to protect your heart.

I choose you.

To my reader, I ask you this, where can you show yourself compassion and kindness? Where are you not choosing yourself? Where can you give yourself permission to change that?

In your hardest moments, I hope that you can give yourself permission to slow down and rest, to let yourself feel, to let yourself heal.

You are loved. You are enough. You are worth it!!

If you’d like to be coached on how to feel your feelings or connect with your inner child, please reach out to me at nursehealingadvocate@gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Ruth Renee Rehart, RN

Hi there! Here’s a little about me… I love gardening, being outdoors in nature, especially near mature trees and large bodies of water. The lake is my favorite place in the city. I enjoy writing, photography, and abstract painting, yoga, biking, and jogging with my dogs. Having been born and raised In California, but now living in Texas, I must vacation to some beach every summer! I am passionate about coaching and encouraging others to believe in and love themselves enough to practice healthy self-care. You are enough and you are worthy just as you are. I graduated Cum Laude from Brigham Young University with a Bachelor’s of Science in Nursing. I worked as cardiac nurse in Michigan and Texas hospitals for over 7 years. Years after I left the bedside, I found nurse coaching and will never look back. I adore helping women find courage to heal so that they can step into confidence, joy, and divine rhythm. I am a trauma survivor and autoimmune/chronic illness warrior. I love to share the resources and wisdom I have gained through my personal transformative health journey. Cheers to your health and happiness, to living in your highest alignment!

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